We should celebrate women everyday.
So today is international women's day and i felt like saying a thing or two about what i have seen, learned and appreciated from different women, but most importantly MOTHERS.
Praising my own mother would be pretty obvious and much expected so lets leave that for later. As an African (Nigerian) i have seen women go through so much challenges and struggles just for the betterment of their kids. Yes i know it doesn't only happen in Africa, yes i know women from all over the world face different types of challenges.
So today is international women's day and i felt like saying a thing or two about what i have seen, learned and appreciated from different women, but most importantly MOTHERS.
Praising my own mother would be pretty obvious and much expected so lets leave that for later. As an African (Nigerian) i have seen women go through so much challenges and struggles just for the betterment of their kids. Yes i know it doesn't only happen in Africa, yes i know women from all over the world face different types of challenges.
The pain however, is how under appreciated they are, the pain is how this side of the world makes a woman feel she has to remain in that situation and endure even at the risk of her own life.
In the northern part of Nigeria, the normal and most common advice given to every wife no matter the situation at hand is "Ki yi hakuri" meaning be patient (and i am 90% sure the same is the case with other parts of the country too). Now is this a bad advice? No i don't think it is. I strongly believe that patience pays but i also know that the woman shouldn't be the one to always be patient and sorry. When the man is wrong the woman should be patient but when its the other way round the woman should be scolded and threatened to be sent back to her parents? No i don't think so. This is one of the many double standards that need to stop.
In the northern part of Nigeria, the normal and most common advice given to every wife no matter the situation at hand is "Ki yi hakuri" meaning be patient (and i am 90% sure the same is the case with other parts of the country too). Now is this a bad advice? No i don't think it is. I strongly believe that patience pays but i also know that the woman shouldn't be the one to always be patient and sorry. When the man is wrong the woman should be patient but when its the other way round the woman should be scolded and threatened to be sent back to her parents? No i don't think so. This is one of the many double standards that need to stop.
